Saying good-bye

I've been a nation of war machine married adult woman for almost viii years now. We've lived at iv dissimilar duty stations together with nosotros are getting laid upwards to movement again. While the routine of moving has larn {somewhat} familiar, proverb good-bye has never larn easier. Yesterday a expert friend of mine moved away. While I excogitation on visiting her at their novel duty station inward the adjacent duet months, I don't know when nosotros volition ever {if nosotros volition ever} hold upwards adjacent door neighbors again.

There were many things I loved most living adjacent door to this friend. She e'er had what I needed, for one. This could make from butter to vino to baby-sitting. She besides e'er had a plate of cookies for us, e'er was upwards for a Target run, e'er laid upwards for a girls night-- planned or not. We shared laughs, bottles of vino {or champagne inward 1 lovely evening}, together with tears. She's non much of a hugger, but I managed to larn several big hugs from her {yay!}. We had game nights. I could e'er popular over to her trouble solid for an hr or ii afterwards my married adult man came home, taking no children alongside me, soaking upwards a much needed suspension together with going habitation feeling refreshed when my hubby in conclusion called to tell the babe was hungry. To quote Little Women, nosotros bore our souls together with shared the most appalling secrets.

Over my fourth dimension every bit a nation of war machine family, nosotros receive got made many wonderful friends along the way. I don't e'er experience similar when I come across people that they know me, who I truly am, non only who I am right then. There are seasons of our life-- seasons where I'm dealing alongside pregnancy, newborns, foreign schedules kept past times my husband... seasons where I experience sorry or lonely because I'm struggling to brand friends together with feeling I'm getting nowhere. But I don't experience defined past times those seasons. I experience similar myself passing through times inward my life where I am dealing alongside diverse things. Sometimes when I come across people inward the midst of those seasons, I mean value they larn to know me right then, despite my best efforts to present them my crazy. I experience similar this friend got to know me. My heart. And accepted me warmly. I experience similar I got to know her. It was 1 of those rare times inward life where yous come across somebody together with recognize a business office of yourself inward them, despite all the differences betwixt you-- because her together with I were real dissimilar inward a lot of ways, but real similar inward many others. Then throw inward the added bonus that my married adult man together with her married adult man became friends, our kids got along great, together with nosotros were adjacent door neighbors... this all added upwards to a perfect best friend cocktail. {And who doesn't dear a cocktail?}

Last nighttime when I was crying, my married adult man told me that it is e'er improve to brand friends together with receive got your pump broken when they movement than to non lay yourself out at that topographic point together with to non brand friends. I fully agree. However, today every bit I write this spider web log post together with reckon her pile of recycling sitting exterior her empty house, I can't assist but experience sad. It hurts to tell good-bye to people that yous love, whether you've known them a long fourth dimension or for only a year. Because a yr is long plenty to shape a deep friendship, particularly when that friendship only clicks.

Today my trouble solid feels a piddling different. The dust of nation of war machine life has settled over it. We receive got said many hellos together with good-byes along the means together with to a greater extent than or less were felt to a greater extent than deeply than others. One matter that comforts me is that nation of war machine wives are expert at is using technology-- novel together with old-fashioned-- to popular off along inward touch. We believe inward mailing cards, Skyping, texting, Facebooking, together with visiting. I loved living adjacent door to my friend. I know that nosotros volition popular off along inward send upon together with catch each other often. I am only sorry to reckon this chapter unopen because I enjoyed it hence much.

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